Intentions instead of Resolutions

For those of you who have been hanging around our blog for a few years, you know that I have been doing a list of intentions’ rather than ‘resolutions’ for a couple of reasons:

1. the stress involved in trying to complete resolutions leads to feeling bad instead of feeling positive…doesn’t really go along with my ‘mantra’!!

and

2. intentions can easily be ongoing…so when you complete them you can feel successful, when you start you can feel successful, and anywhere along the way you can feel successful….much easier to adjust or even cancel as you, yourself, change.

In the past, some of the things I have completed include:

having the piano tuned and taking piano lessons

completing 3 quilts made from F2′s tshirts

organizing photos, both digital and print

finding photos like these and being able to make folders online

cleaning specific areas of the house, like the garage and the basement

finding treasures

needed cleaning, right?

doing as many philanthropic endeavors as possible..love them!!

Anyway, now my list of intentions becomes more mental than physical…I want to help my kids in any way that I can, including caring for the new grand baby in my life!! I don’t think I need to write any of that down…because I love every part of it :) :)

Most definitely, Happy Parenting!

D and C

Christmas Plans

How about a recap from one of the first blog posts from Childhood Myths??   December, 2010


How did those letters go that your kids wrote to Santa? Did they ask for too much…did you help them adjust?




1. Kids do not ‘need’ lots of toys – help them see the difference in needs and wants early. Make sure they understand that they will not get everything on that list, nor should they. Santa has many children to give to and shares his toys around the world.


2. Do not give your children all that they ask for. It saps the excitement from each moment because they begin to understand that, no matter what, they really will get it all.


3. Christmas morning at our house was always “stockings first”. The kids had to wake us up so we could go downstairs together for our stocking stuffers…small things – fruit, matchbox cars, socks. Everything was ‘oohed’ over and appreciated.

not really awake, but ready!
older, and much more ready…with Corky

 

4. When we, as a family, opened gifts under the tree it was always one gift at a time. Everyone watched until that gift was opened, then we moved on to the next, including Mom and Dad. We alternated gifts from Santa and ones from parents. The kids knew they needed the right grateful attitude when opening presents…or we just might stop;)

5. All during the holidays have the kids help. Chad and Scott helped make cookies, cook, wrap presents for others, straighten up. After Christmas Day see if the kids can find toys they’re ready to let go of (ones their new gifts can replace). Have them go with you to drop these things off at a shelter or another organization that helps people.

still in jammies, but helping up a storm!

 

Try to instill that attitude of gratitude early. It can begin to enhance their ability to think of others on their own as they get older.

Christmas brotherly love :)

 

Good luck during the holidays with gratitude!

Happy Parenting!

D and C

…and because it’s necessary…a photo op for new Christmas baby:

precious!

 


 


 


Seasonal Excitement!

New babies! New holidays!!

 

Here’s the sweetie with her ‘pumpkin butt’:

…and her lion costume!!

We are thankful for this adorable ‘turkey butt’!!

And…the most adorable wearing of an ‘ugly Christmas sweater’!!

so sweet…LOVE:)

 

Happy Parenting (and grandparenting!),

D and C

The Grands…

How about an up-date on these two lovely people??

smiling at the rehab center

When we visited Carl today he was happy as a clam! We gave him a cheese biscuit from Red Lobster…took him a minute before he decided he liked it, but then…yum!

Grabbing the hand of his ‘sweetie-pie’….while holding on to that biscuit!

Mom gave Carl this Jamaica hat to wear instead of the LA cap he wouldn’t give up…he says it’s ‘ok’…

Mom is back home in her condo now continuing to improve from hip surgery after a fall. She spent 3 1/2 months in the rehab with Carl for therapy…lots of pain, but they spent much of every day together and enjoyed that!

She has a wonderful neighbor who is keeping tabs on her and helping her with things she can’t yet handle on her own.

wonderful Irene

 

She has amazed everyone with her recovery!!!  94 and hanging in there!!

We went to happy hour for snacks and a bit of bingo…yup, I said bingo ;)

Carl took this photo for us :)

 

Here Mom is, looking feisty…using her walker in the house and a cane and someone’s arm outside the house.

We are all very proud of her hard work in doing way better than anyone thought she could! Now, if we can just get her to slow down and take the advice of the professionals…we could rest a little easier!!

Way to go, Mom!!

 

Happy Parenting!

D and C

Never Forgotten…

It is hard to believe…

18 years since my heart was broken into pieces…but he is never really gone if my heart glued itself back together with beautiful memories…

Believing…makes all the difference…he is still with me, with all of us…bringing us joy and peace, if that is what we choose!

I choose my sweet Fred..always and forever!

Out to celebrate life tonight, with the TLG…toasting memories with our B52′s….

Love you, my sweetie!

 

Happy Parenting!

D and C

Little One Meets the TLG

A first gathering  of the TLG that baby A gets to attend!!

She was a treat for all :)

Lots of hugging and holding….

TLG 'cousins' :)

 

…and then, of course, her daddy, mommy, and me!!

Lots of love to go around…a lucky little lady!!

Happy Parenting!

D and C

 

Sharing Birthdays for the First Time

The new Uncle Chad….sharing birthday time with beautiful new baby Avery:

Uncle Chad holding sweet little one…

 

and many more pics…of my new granddaughter… :-D   :-D  lots of smiles all around!!

with mommy and daddy :)

sharing her feelings!!

with her beautiful mommy!

with her delighted gramma :)

hi, daddy!!

…and again!

with Aunt Shannon, too!

sweet baby :)

check out that cute face on her pants!!

getting ready to change those diapers…daddy's an expert!!

hmmm….

pretty mama

the 'big sister' puppy!!

sure, if the diaper's changed, I'll hold her again!!

Uncle Chad says he’s happy to share birthday adventures with his new niece….she’s a keeper in all of our hearts!! Thanks, S and L, for sharing your wee one with us!!!!!

 

Happy Parenting!

D and C

Teacher Friends….

For all of my teacher friends out there….HANG IN THERE!!!

As a retired teacher, I have huge compassion and appreciation for all that you do and/or are trying to do.

Today’s overpowering reliance on conformity and data accountability gives me ‘the shivers’…

In ‘honor’ of all those in-services that are supposed to give you info on things you don’t want or don’t need to enhance your kids’ knowledge and excitement about learning:

some expressions for you…

I have to get out of bed for a workshop???

I'm supposed to do what??

Let me tell you what I think!!

Oh, you're killin' me!!!

I do not agree!

phssewww…with raspberries!

Love these expressions…I may have even seen them on teachers I know  :)  :)

 

Happy Parenting and Hug a Teacher Today!

D and C

In case you hadn’t heard….

We are totally surprised with the number of new blog readers:  wow! thanks, everyone, for joining us on our journey. For those of you lovely folks who have been with us for some time, you know we talk about those things that make us happy…and joyful parenting! So, just in case you new readers didn’t know about our parenting book: How to Break 10 Common Childhood Myths …

Here it is  :)

Chad (son) and Diane (mom) wrote the book together to help parents find easier ways to have children who are delightful, respectful, responsible, and eventually independent adults! There are 10 common misbeliefs that kids grab onto and keep forever without a parent’s guide to let go of them. We included lots of stories from our lives…in both of our voices!

 

Feel free to head to Amazon to find our pretty little book in paperback or on Kindle. It is also available online through Barnes and Noble. It does make a great gift for new parents or grandparents, but also for those with kids anywhere from age 1-18.

For any of you delightful people who already bought one…we express a huge thank you to you. We hope you found the book helpful and enjoyable. Feel free to express your thoughts, good or bad, for others to see.

 

Christmas gifts anyone??  This is a plug for the book not because of our making any money but because of our love for kids and our hopes for improving future generations!

delivering backpacks in New Orleans after Hurricane Katrina

 

Thanks and

Happy Parenting!

D and C

Then and Now

Hawaii…ahhh, beautiful, amazing, uplifting! Can you tell that Hawaii is one of my favorite places in the world?

My hubby and I first went to Hawaii in ’72 and again in ’74…I know, I know…I must be ancient:)))  We absolutely loved everything about that beautiful place.

I did not go again…life got busy and family came first…until I decided to take my boys in 1999, after their dad died. I took my two with their best friends when they were 18, 19, 19, and 20. It was a gift to myself, remembering all the fun …because memories are one of the biggest gifts we can give ourselves!

It was such a pleasure to watch those boys enjoy Hawaii as much as F2 and I had.  Then, in 2004, I took my 2 guys again to just vegetate in Waikiki…beach time, sunshine, good food, and wonderful people!!

And now we just returned from a most delightful trip to Hawaii…my sons, and THEIR WIVES!!!  Hurray! They are all the best people in the world! Kind, compassionate, fun loving and positive! My guys really know how to pick them!!!

I am over the moon excited to spend time with them whenever I can..but to be able to share my favorite place with them was awesome, delightful, fantastic and every other positive adjective you can come up with. Love ‘em all!!!

So here we go with the ‘then and now’ of photos…some are from slides from the first 2 trips so the quality may be shaky, but we’re working on memories here folks. It’s all good! Mixed up…old and new photos from Hawaii! Enjoy!!

some new…

some more old…

…and new…

a few more old…

yes…this is the same banyan tree!!!

 


and now…

I hope you enjoyed this small sampling of my Hawaiian memories!!

 

Happy Parenting!

D and C