Do you use this method to ‘turn off the tantrum’ in your child????
A few thoughts on tantrums:
Every child will try one, but not every child continues to have them. What might help make a difference?
A great start is having the child know that “No Means No” always and forever. There will be fewer opportunities for kicking, screaming, crying fits if the little one learns early on that mom and dad mean what they say. If you give in to your child’s demands you’re teaching them to convince you to change your mind…about anything and everything. It is sort of unfair to expect them to know which things you mean if you don’t stick to your guns!
That said, when your kid does decide to throw a tantrum (and they will)…how do you choose to respond? My choice…with humor. Don’t panic, don’t show anger or despair….instead tease, giggle, join in…whatever will change their focus from want, want, want to ha, ha, ha! Your humor needs to be fun, not humiliating….but if they want attention, give them the kind that gets YOU what you want and distracts them form what is causing the meltdown. Timing, of course, is important….if you have messed up their schedule of food or sleep, humor may not work. But giving in to their demand is not fair to them in the long run…because they NEED you to set the boundaries and keep them.
Just my 2 cents worth….take it or leave it. Trying to bring more joy into the world, one child at a time:))
D and C