Christmas Plans

How about a recap from one of the first blog posts from Childhood Myths??   December, 2010


How did those letters go that your kids wrote to Santa? Did they ask for too much…did you help them adjust?




1. Kids do not ‘need’ lots of toys – help them see the difference in needs and wants early. Make sure they understand that they will not get everything on that list, nor should they. Santa has many children to give to and shares his toys around the world.


2. Do not give your children all that they ask for. It saps the excitement from each moment because they begin to understand that, no matter what, they really will get it all.


3. Christmas morning at our house was always “stockings first”. The kids had to wake us up so we could go downstairs together for our stocking stuffers…small things – fruit, matchbox cars, socks. Everything was ‘oohed’ over and appreciated.

not really awake, but ready!
older, and much more ready…with Corky

 

4. When we, as a family, opened gifts under the tree it was always one gift at a time. Everyone watched until that gift was opened, then we moved on to the next, including Mom and Dad. We alternated gifts from Santa and ones from parents. The kids knew they needed the right grateful attitude when opening presents…or we just might stop;)

5. All during the holidays have the kids help. Chad and Scott helped make cookies, cook, wrap presents for others, straighten up. After Christmas Day see if the kids can find toys they’re ready to let go of (ones their new gifts can replace). Have them go with you to drop these things off at a shelter or another organization that helps people.

still in jammies, but helping up a storm!

 

Try to instill that attitude of gratitude early. It can begin to enhance their ability to think of others on their own as they get older.

Christmas brotherly love :)

 

Good luck during the holidays with gratitude!

Happy Parenting!

D and C

…and because it’s necessary…a photo op for new Christmas baby:

precious!

 


 


 


In case you hadn’t heard….

We are totally surprised with the number of new blog readers:  wow! thanks, everyone, for joining us on our journey. For those of you lovely folks who have been with us for some time, you know we talk about those things that make us happy…and joyful parenting! So, just in case you new readers didn’t know about our parenting book: How to Break 10 Common Childhood Myths …

Here it is  :)

Chad (son) and Diane (mom) wrote the book together to help parents find easier ways to have children who are delightful, respectful, responsible, and eventually independent adults! There are 10 common misbeliefs that kids grab onto and keep forever without a parent’s guide to let go of them. We included lots of stories from our lives…in both of our voices!

 

Feel free to head to Amazon to find our pretty little book in paperback or on Kindle. It is also available online through Barnes and Noble. It does make a great gift for new parents or grandparents, but also for those with kids anywhere from age 1-18.

For any of you delightful people who already bought one…we express a huge thank you to you. We hope you found the book helpful and enjoyable. Feel free to express your thoughts, good or bad, for others to see.

 

Christmas gifts anyone??  This is a plug for the book not because of our making any money but because of our love for kids and our hopes for improving future generations!

delivering backpacks in New Orleans after Hurricane Katrina

 

Thanks and

Happy Parenting!

D and C

Another TLG Shower

Our TLG celebrated this lovely couple:

D & C, aren't they cute?

 

a shower in preparation for their October wedding…

having fun, as usual!!

Held at this home:

fantastic hosts, as usual!!

Eating, opening presents, playing with little ones, enjoying each other’s company…always!!

twinners!!

Gramma and Granddaughter!

yummies!

my sweeties...

…and everyone heading out…

All of our TLG get-togethers are wonderful, but special ones .. like wedding or baby showers… are fantastic, emotional, and lovely. We all love our second generation so much…and the third too!!

 

Happy Parenting….always!

D and C

TLG Shower

Great times, great friends, great reason for a party!!!

 

Shower #2 for C & S…the Torch Lake Group shower, held at

S & L’s beautiful new home….3 generations joining in to celebrate the upcoming wedding!!

Here we go with the photos again….be ready:)))

Some great decorations:

labels on top of homemade strawberry jam…

 

…and some great people…

the host and hostess…awesome job!!

bride-to-be with her mom and dad

having fun with the entertainment for the day ;)

yummy food..

Opening gifts…

sooo cute!!

 

Love them!!! Aren’t they the best??

 

Happy Parenting!

D and C

 

So Much Fun!

Our TLG has been celebrating 30th birthdays with the kids of the ‘originals’….you know, the regular kind of ‘old-timer’ birthdays with gag gifts.

Well, this weekend, we celebrated wifey L’s 30th coming up on the 10th of May! She is so cute, and since she’s pregnant (with grandchild #1!!!) people were quite kind to her:))

With a a darling little girl baby and an adorable pup there, we all had plenty of things to keep us busy!

So here for you are just a few !! lovely photos of the event!!

rainbow skewers

raspberry cheesecake muffins

banana chocolate chip muffins

blt chopped salad with corn and feta

grilled ginger chicken slaw

 

Ridiculous use of Pinterest…all 5 of these recipes…whew, it took way longer than I expected. But…they were all very good:))

birthday girl with the cute baby and the adorable puppy:)

how do we keep these things on our heads???

S practicing reading with the babe:)

 

a little unsure of each other!

here's a card, birthday girl!

some silly gifts...

leather for the baby :) Grampa Fink would be proud!!!

worn out pup...

worn out kitty...

…but the baby, still going strong:))

M keeping the stairs safe:)

 

If she could, she’d be singing “Happy Birthday to you, Auntie L!!”

 

It was a wonderful day, with wonderful people!!!

 

Happy Parenting!

D and C

 

 

Holiday ‘Presence’

Ideas for creating that joy on Christmas morning that we all are longing for….  past post #2:

 

Now that your children’s gifts to others are taken care of … see previous post… what do you want to do about their gifts from you and from Santa?

If your kids know that you buy them some gifts that you want to be surprises for them, you can give them some tips about not looking around for presents because of the chance of “wrecking the surprise”. If they can learn to delay gratification and wait for surprises, their Christmas mornings will be sooo exciting, and they will have developed a useful character trait.

If they’re not looking for your gifts, they won’t ‘accidentally’ find Santa’s gifts!!!

I had always thought that Chad and Scott didn’t snoop when Christmas came around because they liked to be surprised. Wrong!! I just discovered that…instead… they were nervous that if they found  surprise gifts we wouldn’t let them have them!! I’m sure we never said that exactly, but they could tell from our voices that snooping was not a good thing.


If you want Santa to last…always keep separate wrapping paper, labels, bows – only to be used by Santa. At our house, Santa wrapped some gifts and left others unwrapped by the tree – and other unwrapped trinkets in the Christmas stockings. Last minute wrapping of Santa’s gifts is always a great idea.

It’s less confusing if all family gifts are wrapped ahead of time with the whole family involved (and in our house put away until Christmas Eve). So all you need to be concerned with on Christmas Eve after the children go to bed is wrapping Santa’s gifts and arranging the presents under the tree.

whether the presents are wrapped by Mom and Dad
or by Santa
or left unwrapped by Santa
or packages from friends and families









Make sure your kids appreciate each gift individually. More to come in Part 3!!




If you do appreciate the idea of giving, whether through Santa or through another avenue, planning ahead of time is always important. Family values come first!!

Happy Parenting!
D and C

Final bridal shower…TLG:)

Our 400th post!!!  Special in many ways:))))

 

The last shower for Scott and Lauren…put on by the best friends ever, our Torch Lake Group!  We love them all sooo much! Thanks for always being there for us!!

the happy sweeties!

a beautiful day and a gorgeous setting

Lauren and her mom Mary

delicious stuffed mushrooms

...and crab puffs!

L with 'the moms'

S having fun with baby M

L's turn with little M

Scott and Lauren with Mary and George

aren't they cute?

TLG fun

more fun...

ready for gifts???

insider joke...we love these mugs!

special gift...from afar:)

gorgeous, right?

the BEST kids ever!!!

Happy!!!

 

An amazing day for an amazing couple!! It was a perfectly lovely shower with our TLG family!

Happy Parenting….from a very happy parent!!!

D and C

 

Are There Senior Citizens in Your Life?

Since beginning to deliver Meals on Wheels to seniors last July, I have noticed that MANY of them have inoperable doorbells. Because a high percentage of them also have some difficulties with hearing, vision, and/or mobility they are not always aware when someone is at their door. Those visitors who are at the door cannot tell whether someone is home…and just arriving slowly….or whether they are not at home.

 

Because I call them before leaving I can tell how many times they might have missed out on someone at the door. Sooo, here’s a thought for those of you with elderly relatives or neighbors. Check their doorbells and make sure they are both working and loud. If they are not, consider buying a new wireless doorbell for them.

 

After T got one for my mom in Florida, I decided to get one for myself (my doorbell has been erratic for years). Wow! What a difference! And it’s so easy to install!!

 

This part plugs in to any outlet you choose and can be moved at any time:

It has a very loud chime…with choices for 1 bell, a double bell, or a Westminster chime. It is totally wireless.

The actual doorbell attaches either with double-sided tape or screws, both of which are included.

I bought 2 of these for 2 of the Meals on Wheels folks…partly for them and partly for all those who deliver. They work so well, and the seniors were very happy for the gift (they actually wanted to pay for them…but my idea, my money). I found my on Amazon…should cost less than $20:))

 

Check out the seniors in your lives…see if these wireless doorbells might be a tiny act of kindness for them:))

 

Happy Parenting!

D and C

Joyful Thursdays #53

What brings you joy, makes you happy, gives you peace? Here are some photos, quotes, and thoughts that make me joyful.

 

Joyful Thursdays #53

 

Here are three things that make me happy and bring me joy:

 

1) a new angel as a gift…always makes me happy

2) finally, after over 30 years with my beloved Coach purse…I actually have 3, all the same style that has become my organizing fallback, I am moving on! I am not a ‘purse-changer’, so my purses are well-used! The Coach purses really did last for more than 30 years, gifts to me from F2! They are no longer made by Coach, so after having some updates done on them at the leather store, I finally found a purse made in exactly the same style…pockets, zippers, inside and out!!!…so I did it…I bought a new purse!! I hope it treats me as well as my previous ones:)

my well-used and loved purse...

...and the new one...

3) anyone looking for a gift for a teacher…or a mom….

I received this lovely box from a student at the end of the school year:


Inside the box were slips of paper…about 20 of them:

These are the kinds of comments on them:

One of my all-time favorite gifts:)))

What things bring you joy and make you happy? Share them with others and spread the joy!!

 

Happy Parenting!

D and C


 

A Party!

Great Fun! Great People! Great Food! …..and a happy couple about to have their first baby:))


The Torch Lake Group, or at least 18 of us, came to the party hosted by kc and jc on Saturday afternoon. The house was beautifully decorated…especially when all of us have fun without any decorations at all!!!

Lots of appetizers, then comfort food: ham sandwiches, macaroni and cheese, green bean casserole, and caesar salad….yummy! Dessert: chocolate cream pie, peanut butter pie, and cake pops!

Such a lot of cute presents for baby C….they are waiting to find out if they are having a boy or a girl…so lots of beautiful yellow, green, and orange onesies, and a book or two from everyone to add to baby’s collection:)

I love this group of people so much…and to have one of our ‘kids’ have a child is very special to all of us…a new generation added to the TLG!!

 

Happy Parenting!

D and C

ps: to those of you who actually responded to my request from last post….thanks so much! So….I will continue… and hope to keep you happier and more positive while sending out a few tips on parenting here and there:))